Shared Stories

I have read the annecdotes on this website for several months now and it has really helped me in discovering myself. When i realised that other people were experiencing what i have been i gained confidence and decided to share my secrets with some close relatives and family members, as they grew to understand i opened up more and more and am now very open to the fact. It didn't make it any easier having to keep my faith whilst going through this phase in my life. You have all helped me very much and i would like to thank you all.

I am very grateful for finding this website and share with alot of you who share parts of my story. I am 41 yo and married. I have had deep relationships with women since my teens and about 2 yrs ago really got in touch with my sexual attraction to women. Interestingly, this occurred during a time of pretty significant depression and a search that led me straight to the feminine Divine. A whole new world opened up for me. I just told my husband about my same-sex attractions and things are hard for me right now. And for him. I started going to a support group which is very helpful, but find it difficult to share the spiritual parts of my life. I also feel pretty isolated and want very much to be in a relationship with a woman. I feel like a teenager sometimes and its very frustrating. I feel horrible about emotionally hurting my husband but do feel that I had to tell the truth. I care for my husband and don't want to run out the door, but at the same time, I really want to live this part of my life that I have ignored for so long. I would appreciate anyone's feedback to my story. You can reach me at cargaff@gmail.com. Carolyn

If we saw a website from Protestant church, it would be very unlikely to say that lesbianism is allowed. How do we get up of this thing? They think to lie about our identities is the truth. it's such hypocritism. I would like to express that the happiness we are giving to our family is not genuine if we pretend as straight but we are actually not. For me, being gay is not an issue at all but to deal with straight people who are narrow minded is much harder & tough than being gay itself.
Hopefully things are changing from time to time and people would realize about the real truth and happiness.

I have been in and out of the closet for about 10years, but finally came out for good a year ago. I am 47, and don't feel the need to lie anymore about who I am. Life is too short. I am divorced and have a teenaged son. My relationship with the Catholic church has been rocky, for many reasons, the main one being my alienation and questions about my faith itself. I was born a Catholic. I want to become full-fledged member of the church community, and just decided to start searching for other Catholic lesbians, instead of going to other more liberal churches,such as MCC or Unitarian, etc. I realize the Catholic Church and homosexuals haven't been on the easiest terms. I want to learn more and find my place and deepen my understanding of what it means to be lesbian and be a Catholic, without guilt, without reservations!

I felt real comfort stumbling upon this website and reading the many stories from here. im just 19 years old and am from an asian background. the idea of being a lesbian is just as close as being dead. to come out is do difficult and sometimes i ask God if i really am this way or am i just putting ideas in my own head. From the time i was little i was always playing the male role while playing "family" with the girls. I was either the father with a wife or the brother i even was the boyfriend. I always felt attracted to girls when i was in school. when i entered secondary school(high school) my grandmother said that i should be careful of the lesbians and that it was wrong to ever be inolved with a girl and since i was also catholic i figured i would be in hell if i was gay.the first two years of secondary school was a fighting experience i knew deep inside that i was feeling attracted to different girls but i dismissed the thought with my catholic background and asian living but in the third year i could not take it and it was burning inside i had to come out and try to see if i was gay. it been 4 years and im sure inside that i am a lesbian. the only support i have is from my friends, Older brother and one very close cousin. i dare not come out to my family as im just a teenager and over here the lesbian idea is just known as a phase i pray every sunday that God shows me the way and helps me.